Others can handle the nephew however they see fit.  For me, I'm not putting up with it anymore. If he's not gone by June 1st, my son and I will be.  And until then he better stay the hell away from me because I will no longer hold my tongue in my own home.

If there was one thing I tell the nephew today it would be, "You should be using our internet to look for a job, not look at porn."

Nothing has improved on the nephew front.  If anything,things have worsened.  I had a dream a couple weeks ago that my son and I went to spend the summer with my parents in Arizona because I just could not deal with how the lack of being allowed to discipline him is effecting my son.  My 7 year old is more responsible and willing to help than this 20 year old.  My son just doesn't understand why he gets in trouble for not doing his chores when the nephew doesn't.  I have to agree with him.  I think it makes no sense and certainly does not help this young man become a man.  I have a very strong feeling this dream will come true and I hate that.  I don't want to leave my home, but with him here it is not my home.  I had a certain amount of control and a strong support system in my home but that is no more.
I understand that this whole situation puts my husband between myself and his mother; however, his mother can afford to have her opinions because the nephew cannot live with her- he stole from her husband and isn't allowed on the property.  If I remove myself from this situation, he will no longer be in the middle.  He and his mom can work together to see to the nephew as they see fit without my input.
I am really struggling with my anger right now.  My doctor has told me repeatedly that if I continue to hold it in I will either burst and cause irreparable damage to my loved ones or my health will fail to the point where I am hospitalized.  I don't like those options but if I say anything to the nephew I'm considered harsh, if I say anything to my mother in law I get brushed off, if I say anything to my husband I only feel guilty for putting him in the horrible situation.  I feel I have no where to turn.

So Mike's nephew has been living with us for a month now after being released from county jail and awaiting trial.  Fun times.  It was our goal to help him get on his feet and become a responsible individual.  So far it has been so stressful that my health is tanking. 
This 20 year old child does nothing all day but play on his damn computer and watch our DVD's.  We have explained to him numerous times to keep his room clean and his pants pulled up but I still have to remind him several times a day.  We are providing him a place to live, food to eat, internet access and how does he show his thanks, not by saying it, but by doing a half ass job of emptying the dishwasher and taking out the trash. 
His grandmother takes him around to get job applications, most of which takes him over a week to fill out.  She is constantly buying him stuff and making phone calls for him to his lawyer, courts, etc. 
Yesterday when she was here after taking him around looking for jobs, I took the opportunity to talk to her about how I didn't think taking a week to get a job application filled out was acceptable when he spends his days playing on the computer or napping.  I was taken aback when she didn't have a problem with it.  She also didn't have an issue with him turning applications in dressed in sagging sweatpants and a t-shirt.  She basically said that because of his lack of parenting as a child that we are expecting too much from him and that he can't change who he is!  Then she proceeded to tell me that he won't be here much longer because its just too stressful on me.  Like its my fault!  It wouldn't be stressful if the kid would show us some damn respect. 
I love my mother in law, but she cannot make up for his shitty childhood by continuing to baby and bail him out.  There comes a time when you have to kick the baby bird out of the nest and it is up to them to fly or fall.  How will this child ever learn to fend for himself when he keeps getting handouts?  I'm sick (literally) of the whole situation. 
Its easy for her to be so nonchalant because he's not living with her.  In fact, he cant because he stole from her and her husband and is no longer allowed in their house. 
We are leaving for a week long vacation to see my parents in Arizona tomorrow and she will house and dog sitting for us because even though her grandson is 20 years old he cannot be trusted.  I'm hoping that during this week her eyes are opened to his blatant laziness and manipulations.  In actuality, I think she will go back to paying his rent like she was before he was arrested.
No matter what though- I'm done with the whole damn situation and cannot wait until he moves out under what ever circumstances it takes.

Wonders never cease, she actually got off her ass and emailed me a (really crappy) copy of my resignation letter.  Now I have to go clean up her mess and send a bunch of letters to the state and all three credit bureaus and hope that they aren't slackers like she is and fix the problem.
I was proud of myself though.  Rather than telling her what I thought of her, I was nice in all my correspondence but only because I've learned enough from dealing with her that she can't handle what others think of her.  Some people can dish it out plenty but can't take a bit.  I'm still tempted to take her to small claims court for all the hassle she has caused but I know that she doesn't have two nickles to rub together.
All I can say now is that I hope all her tattoos fade in the tropical atmosphere she now lives in and she ends up looking like a giant Rorschach test!

I pay my bills on time and in full and have no patience for people who don't.  I think it is absolutely retarded that while a person's credit rating is in the toilet so far they can't own a home, have to drive crap cars and use credit cards to buy a $5 cup of coffee their negligence can affect my credit!  The waste of tattoo ink that I owned a business with found fault in every little thing I did when it came to running the financial side of the business.  She didn't like the way the client statements looked, the way the commission checks were paid, the way spending was tracked, etc., yet when I quit she didn't even pay the sales tax!  The biggest way the government has to screw a business owner over and she treated it like she treats her personal finances.  The real kicker in all of this was that she accused me of being lazy when she didn't take five minutes and a stamp to change the registration from a partnership to a sole proprietorship when I left.  Now her laziness and lack of fiscal responsibility has the government coming after me for her stupidity.  I am livid to say the least.  Now I'm left cleaning up a mess that if she were the person she claims to be would never have existed.  I've always taken pride in my excellent credit rating, she has trashed it.  I take pride in the fact that I don't owe money to anyone for anything, she has caused a lien to be put on my property.  I want revenge, but I will settle for her stepping up and just sending me a copy of  my resignation letter than was never provided to me when I left.  Hmm, more of her laziness.  I have a feeling that I'm in for a fight in this because my guess is- she lost it.  I also have a feeling that the court system will have to get involved.  I don't believe in lawsuits and don't like lawyers but in this instance it may be the only way I get what I need to rectify this situation.  Sad state of life, hers anyway.

Looks like what I helped you build is still going.  I bet you have yet to see anything from it except a drain on your families income, time and quality.  Still glad you traded it for our friendship?  I certainly am because my family's future is solid, we have more quality time together and none of your drama.  You may act like the successful business woman who can do it all, but everyone knows you got your little shop by walking on my back and stabbing me there when I told you my wallet was dry.  I hope the shop of lies (because it is NOT all local) buries you financially, emotionally and spiritually and leaves you the shell of a soul that you truly are. 
I may not be good at sweeping floors or lying to people about how great their hand-made shit is but I guess that means that I'm honest and smart enough to know that your messes can never be cleaned up.  BTW, wash your fucking coffee cup when you're done instead of letting it become a pool of bacteria and clean the front desk because that is noticed long before the floors.

Nothing but a gash.

Hey you, the one who wants the cake and be able eat it too.  You are so full of shit its no wonder your ass has gotten so big. You deserve all the crap you will forever have to go through because you refuse to see any fault in yourself.  Never an apology, never a thank you, never a true word out of your mouth. 
You claim to be so spiritual yet you are only mean spirited.  You smile and laugh to someone's face only to be cruel as soon as they are out the door.  You lead people on because you are too much of a coward to speak up.  Then when the damn breaks all your lies come spilling out.
I can laugh at your sorrow and the trials life brings you because I know better than anyone else... you've earned every little catastrophe.  Karma's gonna kick your ass.