So Mike's nephew has been living with us for a month now after being released from county jail and awaiting trial. Fun times. It was our goal to help him get on his feet and become a responsible individual. So far it has been so stressful that my health is tanking.
This 20 year old child does nothing all day but play on his damn computer and watch our DVD's. We have explained to him numerous times to keep his room clean and his pants pulled up but I still have to remind him several times a day. We are providing him a place to live, food to eat, internet access and how does he show his thanks, not by saying it, but by doing a half ass job of emptying the dishwasher and taking out the trash.
His grandmother takes him around to get job applications, most of which takes him over a week to fill out. She is constantly buying him stuff and making phone calls for him to his lawyer, courts, etc.
Yesterday when she was here after taking him around looking for jobs, I took the opportunity to talk to her about how I didn't think taking a week to get a job application filled out was acceptable when he spends his days playing on the computer or napping. I was taken aback when she didn't have a problem with it. She also didn't have an issue with him turning applications in dressed in sagging sweatpants and a t-shirt. She basically said that because of his lack of parenting as a child that we are expecting too much from him and that he can't change who he is! Then she proceeded to tell me that he won't be here much longer because its just too stressful on me. Like its my fault! It wouldn't be stressful if the kid would show us some damn respect.
I love my mother in law, but she cannot make up for his shitty childhood by continuing to baby and bail him out. There comes a time when you have to kick the baby bird out of the nest and it is up to them to fly or fall. How will this child ever learn to fend for himself when he keeps getting handouts? I'm sick (literally) of the whole situation.
Its easy for her to be so nonchalant because he's not living with her. In fact, he cant because he stole from her and her husband and is no longer allowed in their house.
We are leaving for a week long vacation to see my parents in Arizona tomorrow and she will house and dog sitting for us because even though her grandson is 20 years old he cannot be trusted. I'm hoping that during this week her eyes are opened to his blatant laziness and manipulations. In actuality, I think she will go back to paying his rent like she was before he was arrested.
No matter what though- I'm done with the whole damn situation and cannot wait until he moves out under what ever circumstances it takes.
This 20 year old child does nothing all day but play on his damn computer and watch our DVD's. We have explained to him numerous times to keep his room clean and his pants pulled up but I still have to remind him several times a day. We are providing him a place to live, food to eat, internet access and how does he show his thanks, not by saying it, but by doing a half ass job of emptying the dishwasher and taking out the trash.
His grandmother takes him around to get job applications, most of which takes him over a week to fill out. She is constantly buying him stuff and making phone calls for him to his lawyer, courts, etc.
Yesterday when she was here after taking him around looking for jobs, I took the opportunity to talk to her about how I didn't think taking a week to get a job application filled out was acceptable when he spends his days playing on the computer or napping. I was taken aback when she didn't have a problem with it. She also didn't have an issue with him turning applications in dressed in sagging sweatpants and a t-shirt. She basically said that because of his lack of parenting as a child that we are expecting too much from him and that he can't change who he is! Then she proceeded to tell me that he won't be here much longer because its just too stressful on me. Like its my fault! It wouldn't be stressful if the kid would show us some damn respect.
I love my mother in law, but she cannot make up for his shitty childhood by continuing to baby and bail him out. There comes a time when you have to kick the baby bird out of the nest and it is up to them to fly or fall. How will this child ever learn to fend for himself when he keeps getting handouts? I'm sick (literally) of the whole situation.
Its easy for her to be so nonchalant because he's not living with her. In fact, he cant because he stole from her and her husband and is no longer allowed in their house.
We are leaving for a week long vacation to see my parents in Arizona tomorrow and she will house and dog sitting for us because even though her grandson is 20 years old he cannot be trusted. I'm hoping that during this week her eyes are opened to his blatant laziness and manipulations. In actuality, I think she will go back to paying his rent like she was before he was arrested.
No matter what though- I'm done with the whole damn situation and cannot wait until he moves out under what ever circumstances it takes.
posted by Hellin Heels @ 7:00 AM
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